Falling in love is learning how to love one’s Similarities whereas love is falling in love with One’s differences. Love makes us get in touch with joy simply
Because we know somebody cares for us it makes us get in touch with the sense of Fulfillness . Those in love fail to see a whole . The other person simply functions as a screen where the partner projects one’s own idealised character traits .
Our partner is not what he or she seems to be but a set of positive traits , projected on him /her by the person in love . It is essentially a first encounter with oneself . Being open to love means being open to whatever is new . Love is opening up to reality . Love we cherish for a while , is a necessity even when it is deceptive and we are well aware of it. Love is that state during which one declares i like you simply because he or she holds the mirror where his/her image is reflected gracefully with the aim of one realising the kind of love towards oneself .When in a relationship , all our once concealed traits are highlighted .I project my shadow upon my partner and in doing so ,i become aware of it. From then onwards two things might happen .I can either destroy the dreary threat of my shadow and result in destroying my relationship or avail of the opportunity to unite with and thus get rid of my shadow once and for all . When we really get closer that is when we get Toothache…. What is it actually ? The injured child inside us who steps out when Insecure .
LOVE OR NEED TO LOVE (ΟΣΣΟ)
You do not have to worry .you simply have not encountered love .had you met it ,you would hane perceived the other pole .you would have realised that love creates the great need to be left alone and that solitude is fertile ground for the need for being with someone .Lovers fail to see this .thus they feel guilty when they wish to be left alone and if that is the case ,then the other one feels rejected .that is a great misunderstanding .
If a husband says ‘ i want to spend the evening on my own ’ or ‘ i want to go out with my buddies ’ The wife feels rejected ,angry ,as if unwanted .The whole thing is pure misunderstanding . And if a wife says ‘ i ‘d like to be left alone ’ then the husband gets seriously hurt .it is his ego that is frustrated .
The other person cannot realise this ,simply because he or she has never been told that home truth that actually love entails the need for some time spent on your own . And if you just don’t happen to go through this phase then your love will fall apart .sooner or Later it will turn fake ,it will appear Non-authentic .
Accept life in its entirety .being involved in hot passion is equally good as running into cool compassion . Let both wings become yours . Don’t just cut off either of them or else you Will never be able to set off on this perpetual
Flight .the flight from being lonesome to
Becoming lonesome .
One needs both wings to fly towards the Cosmic soul .